3 magic words. It’s not 'I love you'. Yes, ‘I love you’ does sound magical and proven throughout the world that it is the 3 magic words. But ILY is just an expression, to inform to someone of how we feel. There are words that could be more magical than ILY which are Trust, Honest and Tolerance (THT).
These are 3 simple terms yet vital in a relationship. Without these 3 major points, ‘togetherness’ is hard to achieve. It’s not saying that it can’t but these 3 are the keys for a grateful extension in a relationship. These are the fundamental in a relationship. ILY is an expression but THT is the one that will take the relationship to the extent which you mostly desired.
Trust. What is trust? Trust is to believe in each other. How do you trust others @ your partner? How do you get their trust? You can’t just simply ask someone to trust you. Trust can’t be bought, trust earn. And how do we earn this trust? I don’t know how but it will come to you. My suggestion, you have to trust your partner first. For whatever he/she did, you should trust them. You start first then the trust will come back to you. “One came first before two”. Then you’ll reach the objective of trusting each other. There should neither be suspicion nor doubt on them. There should be no thought of what are they doing behind your back, who do they meet, or where do they go while you are not around. These are some negative thoughts that could ruin the trust. These are some mindset that shouldn’t be in you or you just made trust aren’t possible.
Honest. Without honesty, a relationship is just full of lies. Be honest, not just to yourself but to your partner too. Tell them who you are and what do you want. Deal only with the truth. Be truth to yourself. If you don’t want to lie to others, first don’t lie to yourself. The main point here is to be who you are. The real you. Be honest.
Tolerance. Tolerate with your partner. Be considerate with your partner. Give and take. “What you give you get back” so don’t you worry of being the only who just give and didn’t get any. Remember, this world is not made just for you, but them too. You’re not the only who has needs and wants. Your partner may have their own thought, their own ways, and their own wishes. Or even own time and spaces. Respect their territory and tolerate with them. It’s not all about you so start sharing!
Above all matters, it is easy to say than it to be done. But it worth the effort. These magical words objective can’t be achieve if only you who perform. “It takes two”. Both parties should play their role. “There’ll be no sound if you clap by one hand”. Work hand-in-hand, together to achieve the goals. THT, it’s all what you need!
